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Why Children Learn More When They Are Alone


A child who learns only is a child who learns by himself. Y there is nothing more rewarding than that achievement achieved without help, thanks to one's own abilities. Hasn't it happened to you? Suddenly you feel that you are capable of achieving anything, the illusion increases, the desire to learn, the confidence in oneself ...

All this, which seems like common sense, sometimes we forget, and as parents we constantly try to 'help' our children, without realizing that, far from doing them a favor, we are putting obstacles in their learning. Now at last, science has shown that children who learn by themselves are more intelligent and decisive and has explained why children learn more when they are alone.

Autonomy is like an engine of learning. And also very rewarding. Suddenly makes the child discover for himself that he can do certain things, which is capable of achieving what is proposed. And it feels very important.

There are many educational currents that know it, and they base their objectives precisely on getting more autonomous children. However, at home, many parents tend to 'complete' their children's homework, to 'help' them to do anything ... 'Don't worry, I'll tie your shoelaces' ...' stop, stop , I pick this up which takes less time '... In the end, and without meaning to, we are' cutting the wings' of our son in learning.

To make it clear that a child learns better and faster when doing things on their own And when he suddenly has a moment of loneliness and is forced to solve his problems, science also corroborates it. Findings from a Canadian study from the University of Montreal (led by the psychologist Célia Matte-Gagné), they managed to show that autonomy improves children's cognitive abilities and that in this process, the position of parents is decisive.

On this occasion, the study was based on the analysis of 78 mothers and their children over 3 years. The researchers visited all these children on two occasions: one of them when the baby was only 15 months old and the next, when the baby had already turned 3 years old. On both occasions, the baby's cognitive development was analyzed. On the first visit, participating mothers were asked to help their children complete certain tasks (build a tower with cubes, finish a puzzle). On the next visit, they asked the children to repeat all these activities on their own. The children who completed it with less problems and more ease, turned out to be the most autonomous, whose mothers (less overprotective) had opted to give them autonomy and let them work more before helping them at all times. All this It also showed that children learn more when they are alone and let them try.

If you get your child to gain autonomy and ask you many less times to do anything, you will achieve all this:

  • Your child will be self-sufficient. They will be able to find solutions for themselves. In other words, you will learn to solve your own problems.
  • You will develop more deductive intelligence. When you give a child a toy and do not explain how to use it, they will investigate and look for the mechanism that makes it work on its own. At last you will find the buttons you are looking for. All of this is part of a very beneficial deductive mental process for your brain.
  • You will gain self-esteem. You will improve your self-confidence by seeing that you are able to do so many things without help.
  • Your social skills will improve. Greater problem-solving skills in turn lead to improved social relationships.
  • Your school performance will improve. The cognitive abilities of an autonomous child are superior. This helps in all facets of learning. The most normal thing is that the child's school performance improves, since it will project their autonomy skills in all areas.

Children learn alone they don't need an adult constantly telling them how to do things. It is enough that they explain to them once how to do it, and they let them try it for themselves. Not once, but once, twice, and a hundred times. Autonomy is learned, yes, and it is something you can help with. Do you know how?

  • Teach your child to solve problems.
  • Encourage your child's self-esteem.
  • Work on the value of effort and perseverance.
  • Gets better your tolerance for frustration.
  • Let him have moments to be alone. You can observe, at a distance, without him noticing. You will see how he seeks his own entertainment and discovers surprising things, motivated by curiosity.
  • Let him get bored in a few moments. Don't fill your day and minutes with hectic activities.
  • Incentivize their curiosity. Do not explain to him how to do something, but what he will achieve if he does it. In this way he will investigate and find the way to achieve it.

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Video: Japanese kids go shopping alone. (January 2022).